As most of you know, I got kakked out from a dizzy height on Monday afternoon for sneaking out on Saturday night. My boss was furious. I, of course, felt guilty, especially since I missed out on such a great karaoke evening!!! And I didnt get to perform my famous rendition of "I touch myself", something Im quite well known for in the office.
I have never seen my boss this upset. In fact, it was the first time he has ever been upset with me. I took it quite seriously, and felt so bad about it, that I had to do something to rectify the situation. You see, my boss is well known for his sensitivity and holding grudges so I had to react quickly.
Suggestions flew in from all over the globe (haha): show some cleavage, sing "I touch myself" for him and do that special little dance, place a muffin on his desk and look at him with puppy dog eyes while saying "Sorry".
Eventually I went to an easy option that proved to be well and trusted. I got to work at the crack of dawn this morning and placed a box of Lidnt chocolates with a short note explaining how sorry and bad I felt for letting him down. And I wore a mini skirt. He wasnt there yet and I waited anxiously for his arrival.
Several hours later, my office phone rings and my heart literally stopped when I saw his name on the display. I took a deep breath and answered. He told me he got the chocs, said thank you and not to worry about it anymore. Phew! I was out of the dog box! Of course, he wanted something from me (work, you dirty minded-people) but thats beside the point. All is well now!
Well, at least I hope so. I know I will have to watch what I do from now on and think twice before I decide to sneak out from anywhere that's work related. I have definitely learnt my lesson!
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Glad you out the dog box!
I love reading your blog you are a natural talent.
However I am concerned.
I read that you by your own admission spend so much time on the internet and on JNF that you now often have to work to the last minute to meet deadlines. This is not your style at all and I know! YOU ARE AN ACHIEVER BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU NO LONGER CARE AND HAVE CHANGED TO A LOSER ATTITUDE (NOT YOU AT ALL IN THE PAST).
As for sneaking out that was another bad idea how are you to get promotion if your behaving like a juvenile!. I really hope you start appreciating your job as jobs like that do not come easy no matter how many degrees you have these days! I know others with the same qualifications as you who have no choice but to go overseas if they are to earn a stable income. If you had to lose that jobwhich no longer motivates you would any of these people the JNF's really "give a fuck"? I do not mean help you to drink your sorrows away at the local pub. Would they arrange for you to get a similar job? Would they help out with the family if your in a fainacial crisis? Well you need to think carefully about all of that before you jeopardise all you have worked hard for on people that really can only bring you down. Its obvious that they already have.
FOR YOUR OWN SAKE CATCH A WAKE UP. Perhaps you should listen to your older brother who I hope had not gone down the same road. Perhaps not have the same friends as your younger brother might help.
Bitchy, mean and cruel but at least I actaully give a damn about you. Sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind.
Of course I care about my job! I just realised that this is not what I want to do for the rest of my life. I realised that I have other, more creative, passions in life and am working to achieve this, possibly within the next 5 years.
I wish you had had the guts to leave your name at the end of this bitch session (though I have a feeling I know who you are) and while some of the things you said might have hit home, I feel you dont know me very well.
Im not going to defend my actions (its rather tiresome and I dont have the time) but rest assured, I am working hard these days and not spending so much time on the internet. Its my life and Im living it the way I want to.
Oh, and as for my "JNF FRIENDS" - they are the closest and most supportive friends I have right now. They have helped me through tough times and have been there for me through both good and bad times. I couldnt ask for better friends.
Well I am glad that you at least gave it some thought. I do not know you very well anymore or at least not the person you have become. It is your life and your free to live it as you wish.
I sincerely hope that you work hard on making that five year project a reality. But for the time being do not take for granted what you have today. Otherwise a great blog and from what I have read getting more popular on SA Top Sites. Keep it up. I do not need to put my name you know who it is. That is another thing limit the info you give out (just some advice) many people are known to have lost jobs because of blogs. I do not agree with it but it is happening so give that a thought. Also keep in mind that the IT department does monitor even when they say they do not (trust me they do!). So with just one click your boss or who ever sees and knows everything.
Of course I know that they monitor it. I wasnt born yesterday. If it was really so bad, they would have blocked these and other sites already. My boss is pretty lenient in that, as long as I get my work done, he doesnt feel the need to monitor my every move. Dont worry, I dont take that fact for granted.
Yes, I am lucky to have all these perks, but Im willing to give it all up to follow my true dreams.
Look, Im not stupid. I know what Im doing and Im very VERY happy with what I become and am still very ambitious. My dreams have just taken a different path, and I dont see anything wrong with it.
I know that you care, but you are coming across as a pessimist, and making me look like an alcoholic loser who has given up on life. You are so far from the truth. You see, what I write about in my blogs, are only a snippet of my life, there is just so much more to it than that.
On a side note, I know that this JNF friend would support you if you lost your job, and do everything in my power to help you out. But I don't need to worry about that cause your great at what you do and your boss knows that.
Caz, I am proud of you for admitting that you have a problem and spend too much time on the net, atleast you did something about it.
Anon, the people from JNF are great people and yes they would give a fuck, if you knew what they have done for some members you would never have said that.
Anon, Caz is really lucky to be so motivated in his/her job, I know what Caz is going through being bored in hers. Its scary that you are so quick to judge her but I think I might actually know her better than you. If you were really that concerned would you not have picked up a phone and called just to hear how things are every now and again???
P.S I know Caz because of Ferdi, and we are really good friends. Who gives you the right to decide who she should be friends with?
At the end of the day I gave my opinion on what I read on this blog.
Some of you sound very defensive I wonder why? Is it because I touched a nerve? No I do not think many of you actually care because if you did you certainly would never let her do something as stupid as this last weekend. When you work for company like that you do not pull off dumb assed pranks like that. This is the real world. I do care if Carol is unemployed. Unlike many of you I would help her( financial help not hugs and kisses ) and her folks included in a heart beat.
Yes I know Carol will do just fine. She is an achiever and always will be. However bad company can bring a person down. The reality is that in life you need to network to make it these days. I however have always looked up to her and perhaps have some very high expectations for her. They are perhaps more my ambitions then her own. She always had the brain I had the vision. As for not calling her well I took the trouble to go see her and I felt she snubbed me for the likes of all of you. So I am not going to force myself on her. If I did not care about her I would not read her blog on a regular basis. My only concern is that she losses her job. That is why I could not ignore the blog and say nothing. Tell me people how do you plan to help Carol if she losses her job today?
Are you going to get her a new job?
Are you going to take over her bond payments till she is up on her feet?
Do you plan to help out with medical aid payments for her parents while she looks for a new job?
Will you provide her and the rest of the family with a place to stay?Pay for the groceries and petrol? Or do you think people live on good times and fresh air?
You see in life MONEY SADLY IS THE ROUTE OF EVIL BUT WITHOUT IT YOU CAN NOT LIVE.
When the good times roll there are plenty of friends but when dark days arise they quickly vanish into the night. As for Berny my point exactly she met you through Ferdi enough said. You sound very young tell me do you still live at home? Where do you see yourself in the next 10yrs. Youth is truly wasted on the young!
I have been unemployed, slept on a couch for over a year. I even started to consider some immoral options at that point? I know what it is like to be broke and live on R20.00 a day. Things have worked out for me not because of my brilliant mind, not because I am anything to look at. Only one reason I made up my mind that I wanted more in life and made a point of getting close to the right people. ITS NOT WHAT YOU KNOW ITS WHO YOU KNOW.
Here is Carol in a brilliant position working in the same office as some of the top people in banking and here she is fooling around with a bunch of juvenile idiots(like you guys) with no networking worth to their name. (sorry but true) Carol is in another league and that is just the way it is. Perhaps she can not see it but I do. Her older brother the same thing. A high achiever and incredibly ambitious. I hope that he has not also been affected by Ferdi and the social gang in the same way as that will be a real waste of a brilliant mind.
Carol I am sorry to have upset you but it was not to bring you down but to grab you from hitting the ground. I am a nasty piece of work I am what I am.At least with me there is always cartainty. Carol knows me like the back of her hand. She did not even need to see my name so I think many of you can see just how far back we go.
I know Carol will achieve her plan in the next five years.
But all good ideas need money no matter what it is. They all have one thing in common you NEED CAPITOL! So till then she needs her job and unless you dumb asses have the money to make her dream a reality or can match her current salary I think you should all support her at keeping her current job (meaning no dumb assed ideas like last weekend)Even if that was her own idea a good friend would have put her straight! Untill she is in the position to leave her job and not look back things like that should not happen with so called friends. Why all of you so concerned about her dream? I smell something fishy perhaps many of you prefer she leaves this job then some of you will not feel so inferior in comparison.
Anon - please shut up... and back the hell off our backs... you know nothing about us, - do you know that most of us have very good jobs, husbands, children, our own homes - Yet you judge us without knowing who the hell we are. I spend a lot of time online, but I work my ass off, much like Carol does. And yes, if need be I'd give her a job in a heartbeat, I'd arrange for her family to move here if I had to. So I'd suggest that you stop being so jelous of "the likes of us" and go find someone elses life to try and run.
Oh and one last thing - you act as if we knew she'd get in trouble with her boss and forced her to come join us - grow up!!! Why on earth would we do that. Why would be want her to lose her job. I really think your little green monster needs to get real and get a life.
What job do you have? You can't seem to spell?
Anon, I dont live with my mom or dad.. havent for quite a while.
Yes I am young, 19 to be exact but I do have a job and pay my own way.
Why do you feel the need to attack me or the rest of my friends?
The truth is that you dont know any of us, I would actually love to meet you over a cup of coffee so I can show you I am not an idiot.
If you know Caz so well dont you think she would pick friends that are right for her?
Scary that I am the one who left high school 2 years ago but you seem to be the one acting like a child
Stop it, Nicole, just STOP IT!!! How DARE you insult my friends like that? You dont even know them so where do you get off calling them juvenile? Just who do you think you are? And before you accuse someone of not being able to spell, look at your own spelling, for f'sakes! You know NOTHING about them!
I promised myself I wasnt going to bother with this anymore, but I cannot just sit back and let you go off on my friends like that! I HAVE HAD IT!
I dont know where you got the idea that I snubbed you? But now, as far as you and I are concerned, WE ARE DONE! I hate to do this online (its definitely not my style) but since you opened fire here, Im going to end it here. I dont need you to tell me what to do, I certainly did not ask for your advice. My real friends give it, WHEN I ASK FOR IT. They know me well enough to know that Im mature enough to make my own decisions and learn from my own mistakes.
Yes, Im capable of being a CEO of a Fortune 500 company like you always say. Im capable of achieving many things, but did you ever stop to think and wonder that maybe I dont want that? You are making such a huge deal of a stupid little blunder that I did this weekend (which I quickly rectified because I know my boss and he knows better than to let me go over a silly thing) and make it sound as if I dont know what the hell Im doing. Please, get over yourself and concentrate on your OWN life instead. You dont see me telling you how to live your own damn life. So please butt out of mine.
It saddens me that it has to end this way, because we have been such close friends for so many years. I still love you dearly, but I cannot associate with negative, miserable people. Goodbye!
And one more thing. Dont you EVER EVER insult my little brother like that! I cant believe you would stoop so low! He has been going through such a rough time this year, trying to find a job. He certainly doesnt need you badmouthing him. He has been such a good brother to me, I love him more than life itself. If you were actually my friend, you'd know that he is very protective of me, and would get me out of trouble in a heartbeat.
You have hurt me a lot Nicole, by your harsh words. But Im not wasting my breath anymore here. Please dont contact me ever again.
uh...hmmm i seem to have missed it. But thank god i actually read back,
so quick 5c, uh Berny is my sister, like carol she isnt immature, she doesnt loaf (sleep on couches for two years etc etc) They both do work hard, i have gone to carols place and found that over many weekends she is working, Not because she doesnt work during the week, but because she can, Thats why she is able to be online as much as she is, she is old enough to look after herself. She knows right from wrong and sometimes , just sometimes actually enjoys life. Something which you dont seem to do. Tell me, "nicole" do you want to go out partying when your 60? no. Neither does carol, she is enjoying the here and now, She doesnt need a husband and 2.5 kids.Thats not carol .Carol is the type of person who needs to be out, be seen , be partying. why is that so hard to accept? Shes been at her job now since, feb? and one slipup? my god, i wish i had that track record. I get into trouble on a daily basis, but thats me, i geuss i am juvenile. Earning a salary, enjoying life, paying off a car etc.
Thank god nicole was there to point out our faults. I mean, JNF friend, i assume you go by the nick tink. Arent you that lady whos boss freaks out when you take a days leave...not because you take so many, but because he cant run the business without you? The chickie that helped out a fellow jnffer that hit bad times? is that you?
nicole. seriously. i recommend getting to know carol all over, she has probably changed alot since you last saw her, but i promise you, if she was like you....shes changed for the better
one last thing, Ferdi is my friend, i would do anything for him, hell weasels just as good a buddy as him, Dont bring them into your mud fights. They didnt do anything to you
Hi, Tink here. I've been reading, with interest, what Nicole has posted and the responses from Carol and various of her friends. Let me just confirm, this is my first and the last post that I will be making here.
I am not going to defend Carol or her actions. Not because I agree or disagree with her choices, but because I don't think that any defending needs to be done.
Carol has been an amazing friend to me over the past two years, and even more so from the beginning of this year, when we finally met face to face.
She has become one of my closest friends, who's opinions, advice and support is always much appreciated.
Initially, I was really upset at the hurtful things that you, Nicole, had written about Carol, her brothers and her online friends.
But then I realised that you do not know Carol. You see a perceived vision of her on her blogs, a one-dimensional version of Carol and you judge her on that? Everyone has an online persona, it is not a 100 % true and accurate reflection of who a person is.
You claim that Carol snubbed you on the one occasion that you had a chance to see her? For fuck sakes Nicole, it was her birthday party! She was worried sick about you, surely you received all the missed calls and messages that she had left on your cell phone, the same cell phone that you left at home? And when you got there, oh yes, I remember meeting you, was it not you that became a wallflower and watched as Carol mingled with all the guests?
Jealousy is a nasty emotion and it's clearly evident in the posts that you have made.
I, for one, am proud to call Carol my friend and I will never treat her or any of my friends with the viciousness and spite which you have.
Tink
PS. Martin, thanks for the kind words.
I saw your life (friends at the party) you never saw mine. Sadly we will never mix in the same crowd.
I also can only get an impression from what you write on your blog.
Even if the blog is a small part of your life it certainly covers the social aspect of it. Clearly it spills over to your profession as well.
I never contacted you by the way get that straight! Just voiced my concern as it sounds like no one else had the decency to tell you otherwise. It is unwanted advice but then I do not just let people jump in the fire and absolve myself that ITS THEIR LIFE I actually do care so I will be a pain in the ass if I think its for someone own good..
Do as you please it is your life and you only get one chance. I know that I have done my part. Sober people like me sound so negative yes we not much fun are we?. I mean listen to that phrase. So typical.
As for being miserable well lets see I do not drink a drop of alcohol because life for me is actually good for the first time in years so I never feel the need to get smashed to have a good time. That says volumes. I would like the same for you but perhaps we are different and this really is what you want in your life.
You do not even realize that you did in fact snub me. Which shows your lack of empathy. However I do wish you well and any one with half a brain would certainly see that. I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY if you really are then I am wrong! But if your not well at least you heard another perspective. Whether it is right or wrong only you can decide and hopefully I will be wrong. Yes I rather be wrong with all of this then get proven right.
As for those JNF friends get over yourselves in life not everyone is going to like you. Who gives a damn if I like you or not? Whether you would like me or not? Who cares? You all need to get a thicker skin. I noticed many of you got really ANGRY !!! I just laughed and it was fun. The way to get to me is by being silent. I hate being ignored but you guys got so defensive that I just could not help myself TO CARRY ON and it was very immature of me I admit. But hey I only do this once in a while so I do not feel bad. I was amazed at how you guys reply at all hours you really are a deprived bunch.
The debate was : Is this crowd having a bad affect on Carol's life on a social, professional and romantic level? Only time will tell.
I WILL NOT BE COMMENTING FURTHER I ACTUALLY DO HAVE A LIFE TO LIVE!
I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY. So I REST MY CASE.
Good on you for having a life!
I have got a really happy one too =)
As for us commenting at all hours.. WTF?!?!? I only have internet at work as many of the rest.
The reason we all ot defensive it because we love Carol and we are standing up for her (yes I know she can do it herself but I wanted to)
As you said we only get one chance, and I am enjoying mine and I think its great that I have friends like Carol and Tink to share it with.
See you tonight Caz!
yey, u guys are coming tonight
i hope its gonna be awesome
i have never been there, but they make it sound so nice
this nicole woman, man, whatever you are, you need some help. and i request you get it now
Dont worry berny, she's too stupid to see that the times frame is out here... cause then she would notice that she posted at 2:26 in the morning....
not worth thinking about.
And ps - when I get angry I don't give a shit about spelling... and I have a very good job - the kind that I could get Carol and all my "little jnf friends" a job also...
So really piss off!!
Here endeth my communication - I've now got better things to do.
sounds like she really wants to hang with us.
Carol. get nicole up here. She needs a drink or three.seriously
Okay, I realise that all of this stuff has been debated and tossed back and forth ad nauseum, but I feel that I should just throw in my 2c worth quickly since I've been offline due to work and studies. Yes, Nicole, people on JNF do have those things to do too!!!
Did you know that JNF is home to an almost-qualified surgeon? I somehow doubt that she slacks off and is an alcoholic loser. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't know how to party. Oh! and there are loads of other successful people there too, just by the way!
Speaking in my own capacity. I work my arse off. I'm young, yes, still studying. And I spend a lot of time on JNF, probably more than I should... but you know what? I'm still getting distinctions in one moer of a difficult subject. Does that make me a loser? I don't think so. My first year at university was paid for, in full, by a prestigious bursary that I earned! But according to you, anyone that Carol associates with on JNF is a loser that wants her to fail to make his/her own "pathetic" life seem mediocre at best and not the dismal failure you describe it as being. I have never met the other members that have commented here before, but I've got to know them through JNF and I'm happy for it! These "losers" have been there for me when I've needed them. One has offered me a place to stay on numerous occasions should I ever need it, even going so far as to say that my boyfriend and I could stay with her while we set our lives up in another city! I don't know about you, but that to me sounds like a pretty big gesture and I'm grateful that these people care enough about me and my wellbeing to make them!
So yes! We "losers" do care about Carol's life and would do anything in our capacity to help her should she need it! Whether that be financially or emotional support 'cause you know, sometimes you do need trivial things such as "hugs and kisses".
Forgive me if this tirade is confusing and nonsensical, but I feel very strongly about this matter. One shouldn't judge things before trying them for him/herself but apparently you, Nicole, know all. I'm not responding in anger because I'm in denial as you've suggested by saying that you've "hit a nerve". You have hit a nerve, but definitely not for that reason. You hit one because, firstly you insulted Carol. Secondly you chose to judge people that you know nothing about and call them idiots and losers that don't care about Carol. I take it that you're her only true friend then?
I feel sorry for you. Because it doesn't seem like you can enjoy life. I hope that one day you will also have "loser" friends that care about you as much as we "losers" care about Carol... maybe then you'll understand.
But all of that aside, We're here for you, Carol. Whenever you need us! Keep shining!!!
Hi Carol,
Read about your problem. I have been so busy that I hadn't had time to read your blog, and I was quite surprised to read about the new developments.
All I can say is that I know you and Nicole since we were kids at Jeppe. You have been always friends, well until I left, you were. I still remember when you arrived in South Africa. It was in std.2 and your teacher was Miss Courtoes.As for Nicole, I know you her since grade 2, when our teacher was Mrs McLaren. It makes me sad to see that you guys are at each others throats. Word of advice: take it easy, chill out, relax. Life is too short to be angry.
She does not mean you any wrong. She likes you and is worried about you. Maybe her approach was not the best, but her intention was.
Carols' friends please don't feel insulted by Nicole. She wants Carol's well being.
Carol, may I remind you that I know you guys for forever, therefore I don't think that Nicole meant anything bad about what she said. She is worried about you and so am I.
I know that people change over the years. I remember you being the shy one and Nicole being the most active and forward one.
14 years have gone by and nowadays, it seems like you guys have swapped places.
Your blog is excellent and it seems that you are accompanied by really cool people. You have a nice life ... congratulations.
Carol, it is a good philosophy to live life as a party, but remember there are always consequences. You have always been a very wise girl and currently, I presume that you still are. So ask (and I believe that this is what Nicole meant initially) maintain yourself focused on your objectives.
Party hard with your friends, but drink moderately. Besides soon you will be taking your drivers and believe me when your are driving, you just can't drink ... the designated driver.
So don't fall into a custom of constant heavy drinking, for in future you might fall in a abyss, for you can develop serious problems, eg. health wise-liver.
In society we see it happening all the time, people with great careers falling apart due to chemical addictions.
Please Carol be superior to that, for what and how much you drink is all your choice.
But bare in mind, how do you want people to remember you by? What image do you want them having of you? Reflect on that.
Take care and I hope that you are not offended about what I said, but as Nicole and all of your other friends, I too wish you all the best.
Remember: life is too short, so be wise on how you have your fun.
No, Im not offended, I know you mean well too, but the thing is, Im just a little tired of people treating me like an alcoholic, because Im far from one. Yes, I like to indulge a bit (sometimes more than I should) when Im partying, but so what? I do it because I dont have to drive - if I did, I wouldnt be stupid enough to drink AND drive. Im not stupid.
Im smarter than what some of you give me credit for.
The reason I got upset with Nicole was because yes, she insulted my friends, who know me a whole lot better than her (and frankly, you as well). I may not be the same person I was at school, but Im not as irresponsible as she made me out to be!!! My friends stick up for me, because they KNOW ME. They know I can party, but that I can be responsible too. So they dont have to worry about me and tell me what to do. Have you read their comments? They are the ones that TRUELY know me.
So Im sorry, I am not going to take her shit. I am not a child, I can look after myself. Not even my parents give me all this shit, cause they too know me.
Hi Shiela.
Seems like you and Nicole are reading a different blog to me...
You guys are really making it sound as if Caz drinks her life away, why would you do that?
The only time she actually drinks is if we are at a gig or visiting with some friends.
If he was drinking in the week or when she was alone then Trust me we would have done something about it.
Carol: point taken. I understand you perfectly.
Berny: take care of Carol and it is nice to see that she has such a good friend, that will defend her. From what I remember, she is an excellent friend with a good heart.
But this is my point: Carol is one of my friends from South Africa that I left behind, when I moved overseas, and who I hold very dear in my heart.For that reason, I would not like anything bad happening to her, I would like to see her succeed ... and to take a step further.
I know that Carol is one of the persons that I know, who is able of incredible things, for she is intelligent. I would like to see her do these incredible things and the things she wishes to do, even though from a distance.
So Carol blow our minds away!
Thanks Sheila. Sorry if I was a bit harsh in my previous comment. But I take these things very seriously.
You should come visit us soon!
Caz is a great friend and she takes are of herself, thanks for understanding what she has been trying to say!
I would really love to meet you someday so make a plan to Visit Caz :)
As I said before, I understood your point ... no harm done.
As for a trip to RSA ... it all depends on work. Maybe in December or the next year for a holiday. It is something I'll have to plan carefully because I'll probably be in JHB for a few days and then I am off to Cape Town to visit the family (my sister, brother-in-law and their 3 kids). When I am in JHB I'll be more than glad to see you and all the girls again, and meet you too Berny.
But work wise, there is a possibility that I might go there due to work because my company is in negotiations to open a partnership in J.H.B.
We already have a partner in Angola, but, in Africa, we are still in negotiations in Ghana and Mozambique. Our newest partner is Australia, so +/- we are in 25 different countries and still expanding. Portugal is the main office.
What ever gives I'll make a plan.
Sounds good, looks like you have an amazing job!
Keep me posted.
It has its days. But wish I could be doing something more useful and humanitarian.
But I have my whole future to sort that one out.
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